“I Want You to Want to Do the Dishes”: The Fight That Explains So Much About Relationships
“I want you to want to do the dishes” is one of the most common, and misunderstood, conflicts in long-term relationships. This dynamic isn’t really about chores. It’s about mental load, emotional safety, and the longing for shared responsibility. In this post, we explore why this pattern traps both partners, how it shows up in EFT as a classic relational dance, and what actually helps couples move out of resentment and back into connection.
Is This My Trauma or a Relationship That Needs Repair?
You can be self-aware, regulated, and doing “the work”—and still feel lonely in your relationship. When insight doesn’t lead to change, it’s worth asking a different question: is this my trauma, or is something in the relationship itself asking for repair? This post offers a compassionate framework for telling the difference.
When Love Feels Routine: How to Spot (and Shift) the “Roommate Energy” in Your Relationship
When relationships start to feel more functional than emotional, many couples quietly wonder if something is wrong. The truth is, “roommate energy” is incredibly common — and completely workable. In this post, you’ll learn the subtle signs your connection may be drifting, why it happens, and how to gently begin reconnecting in ways that feel safe, meaningful, and sustainable.
Setting Intentions as a Couple: A Gentle Way to Begin the New Year Together
The new year brings hope…and pressure. For couples longing for deeper connection, setting shared intentions offers a gentler, more powerful way to begin the year with clarity, closeness, and purpose.
When You Realize You’re in “Roommate Mode”: What Actually Helps Couples Reconnect
When couples realize they’ve slipped into “roommate mode,” the hardest part isn’t understanding why it happened — it’s knowing what actually helps next. This post explores how self-awareness, emotional safety, and small shifts in how couples respond to each other can gently restore closeness without blame or overwhelm.