When It’s Hard to Open Up in Relationships: Understanding Emotional Distance and Conflict Avoidance
Do you find it hard to open up, avoid conflict, or feel overwhelmed by your partner’s emotions? You’re not alone. Many people protect themselves by staying calm, quiet, or emotionally distant — even when they crave connection. This post explores why that happens and how Emotionally Focused Therapy can help you feel safe enough to reconnect.
Will Couples Therapy Make Our Relationship Worse?
Worried couples therapy might make your relationship worse? It’s a common fear—but avoiding help often keeps issues unresolved. In this post, we explore why therapy can feel uncomfortable at first, how to tell if it’s actually helping, and warning signs it might not be the right fit. Learn how couples therapy can strengthen communication, break unhelpful patterns, and deepen your connection—even when it feels hard.
I Think My Partner Has Anxious Attachment. How Can I Get Them to Calm Down and Give Me Space?
Does your partner seem “clingy” or need constant reassurance? Anxious attachment often looks like over-closeness, but underneath it’s driven by fear of abandonment. Learn what’s really going on, why their protective strategies come from care, and how you can support your partner while still honoring your need for space.
I Think My Partner Has Avoidant Attachment. How Can I Make Them Open Up and Care About Me?
Wondering if your partner has avoidant attachment? Avoidant partners may seem distant or emotionally unavailable, but underneath, their protective strategies come from fear—not lack of love. Learn what avoidant attachment looks like, the beliefs that drive it, and how you can build safety, connection, and closeness in your relationship.
Is It Me or Is It Them? Post-Breakup Rumination and How to Find Peace and Acceptance
After a breakup, it’s common to replay conversations and ask yourself, ‘Was it me or was it them?’ Rumination can keep you stuck in cycles of blame and doubt. This post explores why we get caught in these loops, how IFS can help us understand the different ‘parts’ that show up after heartbreak, and gentle ways to move toward peace, closure, and self-compassion.