Is It Me or Is It Them? Post-Breakup Rumination and How to Find Peace and Acceptance

After a breakup, it’s common to replay conversations and ask yourself, ‘Was it me or was it them?’ Rumination can keep you stuck in cycles of blame and doubt. This post explores why we get caught in these loops, how IFS can help us understand the different ‘parts’ that show up after heartbreak, and gentle ways to move toward peace, closure, and self-compassion.